From Cognitive Distortions to Growth Mindset | 5 Tips to Help You Change Your Mind
- La'Tara Jackson
- Aug 10, 2023
- 4 min read
Updated: Sep 27, 2023
Ya mind playin' tricks on you!
Have you ever heard that song by Scarface? Clearly, I am from down south. If you do not know who Scarface is, he is a hood legend and rap artist who was once part of a group called Geto Boys. We did not come here today to talk about Scarface but every time I think about cognitive distortion's, that song plays in my head. On today's blog we are talking about redefining success.
How many times have you started a project with high expectations and deemed yourself a failure when you did not see those exact results in a certain time frame? We have to reprogram our mind to know and see success. If not, by default, we suffer from cognitive distortions. At times the mind plays tricks on us and it's because we have yet to consider what success really is for ourselves. What this means is we deem ourselves failures because we tend to focus on the bad and not the good based on what we have been told success is. In other words, we hyper fixate on lack and not growth. These are called fallacies.
“A cognitive distortion could cause that person to focus more on what they got wrong than what they got right. It’s seeing the glass half empty and not half full. It keeps us in a lower vibrational frequency, living according to what we see based on the distortion. If you are unable to relate to success, you could have a hard time accepting you have been successful.”
- Ground Up Self-Love Workbook
Let's talk business!
So what your business didn’t make $10k today or for some even $1. Did you show up despite the numbers? Ok, then! You are successful! Stop waiting until the big payout to deem yourself a success. If you are in purpose, you understand you are on a journey. You chose destiny instead of a superficial lifestyle. That means you’re in for a wild ride and there is no getting off! Your trip isn’t complete until you’re on your death bed. So in the meantime in between time you might as well enjoy the ride. But how do we do that? We shift our mindset from a fixed to a growth mindset. Let's talk about it.
Here are five steps I take to check myself when I am feeling the overwhelm of doing the hard work.
First things first, RELAX!
I know this can be difficult when you're feeling overwhelmed but trust me, a calm nervous system is essential for clarity and observation. Release your tongue from the roof of your mouth and take a few breaths. Mindfully inhale through your nose and exhale through your mouth. Repeat this three to four times.
Secondly,
I remind myself anything worth having requires hard work, time, patience and dedication. If you are not familiar with rapper Nipsey Hussle this is the perfect time to get acquainted. His music always gets me out of my entrepreneurial funk.
Thirdly,
I think back to a time when I did quit and how it benefited me. For example, I started a blog/vlog back in 2014 but quickly abandoned it because I didn’t see instant results. New age culture has conditioned us to believe in instant gratification. Everyone is looking for the elevator to success. Newsflash, THERE ISN’T ONE‼ If you do find a get rich quick scheme it is just that, a scheme. Stay down until you come up big dawg!
Fourthly,
I remember that I am chosen. Truth is, God could have chosen anyone else to do His will but He chose ME. I am honored to know He thought so highly of me. Even when I think I can’t do it, He reminds me His strength is perfected in my weakness. He continues to dissolve my insecurities and He gets the glory.
Lastly,
I remember why I am doing it. Man!! If your WHY isn’t strong, you are bound to give up. Sometimes we can let our excuses be louder than our execution. It’s because we could think if something is hard it means we are not in alignment. I’ve learned that is far from the truth. Anytime you are on the brink of a breakthrough, you can expect some resistance. It’s you breaking through a barrier/cycle. When you couple your why with phrases like, I didn’t come this far just to turn around, you put on your big girl panties (briefs for my guys) and push through!
Final Thoughts | Abundance Mindset is the result of a Growth Mindset.
We do not talk about it enough but there is a such thing as resistance to better. Some of us know this as the fear of success. If you were born around the 80's and 90's you may remember Sega Genesis and Sonic the hedgehog. If you recall, at each new level it became harder to beat the fat red head guy at the end. The moral of that story is, when you are walking into a season of more, it does include more blessings. But it also includes more discipline, boundaries, self-control and yep, you guessed it, more WORK! When we ask God to enlarge our territory, you can’t only expect the good, you have to know it'll come with struggles also. More spiritual attacks, more resistance, longer days and nights. More, more, more, across the board. But remember you prayed for abundance so don’t complain about all that’s on your plate. Take your time, and Eat it! Now get out there Champ! You got this!
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La'Tara Jackson is Author/Owner of Ground Up Self-Love Workbook and .com, and Holistic Coach both certified in personal training and yoga. She has over eight years experience in nutrition and wellness and it all began with being a single mom desiring a better life for herself and children by starting a woman's community bootcamp that would go on to change the lives of many. And that was just the beginning.
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